I’ve been so programmed my entire life up until a couple of years ago. I have always believed that when you break up with someone thats it you are done. Never talk again and go your seperate ways.
My last relationship was the longest I had ever been in and was with a woman, my first. We did break up on good terms but I still felt there was no reason to continue a friendship whatsoever.
We had unfinished business to take care of, like the dogs, bank accounts and so forth. So when we finished with all of that months later. She askrd if we could still ne friends.
It was very hard for me and I didnt know how to react so I didn’t and just said if I feel uncomfortable I will let you know.
From that point on I never called her. She texted me and sometimes I would text back. Since our breakup she has gone through a lot. (Not my business to tell) She felt she can still talk to me without feeling judged. And she is right. Doesn’t mean that I don’t think that what she went through was weird but nonetheless who am I to judge, so I don’t.
I hold boundaries with her because I know how to do that today. Example, she asked me to come over to her house and take pictures of things she’s going to sell. I told her that I dont feel comfortable going over there and that I wouldn’t. Small things like that. I mean, we were together for 6 years. That’s a long time to be in someone’s life.
The point is, being who I am meant to be, I am capable of anything. Even being friends with an ex and having good boundaries around our friendship. That’s growth.
Never have I been in a relationship and been ok with talking to them or meeting up with them after a breakup. Old ideas and belief systems that had been engrained in me.
I’ve changed, my perceptions have changed, my belief systems have changed, out with the old Jennifer and welcoming the new improved and loving Jennifer.
So blessed to be ME!
Love Light and Healing!